OK, let’s try this game in 1 minute:
“Can you think of three people whom you trust deeply?”
OK, good. In the next 2 minutes, can you tell me the common qualities and characteristics? Why are they trustworthy and reliable to you?
Done? Great, let’s see do we have anything in common – to me, here are some common traits of trustable people:
1. Talk straight, no hidden agenda.
They are honest, they tell the truth. They demonstrate integrity and tell the facts, mean what they say and say what they mean.
2. Be loyal
They stay with you in hardship as well as in prosperity. Nothing can change the value of their friendship. They have friends whom they know they can call at 2 AM.
3. Be positive – right the wrongs
They don’t hide mistakes. They acknowledge, accept their mistakes and offer correction asap. They do the same to others’ mistakes.
4. Respect others
They genuinely care for others. Material value means little to them – they respond to other people by characters and core values, not on appearances, wealthiness, or social status. They don’t judge quickly.
5. Deliver results
They can be high-achievers and mountain movers, or just someone who keeps their promises. You know when they say they’ll make it, they’ll make it despise circumstances.
6. Strive to be better
They never sleep on their laurels. They never stop to be a better version of themselves tomorrow, and they encourage others to be the same with their infectious energy.
7. Challenge status quo
They have little respect for status quo. Not so much for dogma and social norms either. They always have a healthy dosage of curiosity. They are the square peg in the round hole.
8. Crystal clear expectation
They state exactly what their expectations are. They discuss, renegotiate, and validate these expectations. They don’t assume.
9. Hold themselves and other accountable
They practice strong accountability and they expect the same from you. They will not forgive themselves easily for irresponsibity.
10. Listen first
A lot of us listen with the intention to respond. They listen with the intention to understand.
Enough said, with all of the strong characters – they are great listeners. They extend their trust network, they welcome you to the circle, they accept differences knowing these are essentials for the greater of good.
This is by no mean a complete list, what do you have in mind?
Reference : https://omaralzabir.com/a-managers-checklist/ (Omar Al Zabir)
Fast Friends exercise
Today at Stanford GSB, I did an interesting exercise developed by Arthur Aaron at Harvard University almost 30 years ago.
In this exercise, you work with a chosen partner, each of you takes turns to ask and answer questions. Each person must answer each question before proceeding to the next. Try to get as many as you can within 15 minutes.
After the exercise, in just less than half an hour, suddenly complete strangers can build closeness toward the other, a connection that we didn’t have before.
10 questions to ask
- Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest
- Would you like to be famous? In what way?
- What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?
- If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future, or anything else, what would you want to know?
- What do you value most in friendship?
- What is your most treasured memory?
- When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
- If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?
- If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
- Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?
The exercise left me to wonder: how could it happen? How did complete strangers get together and build up a rapport so effectively? What do you think?